Like its main character, Me
and Earl and the Dying Girl has a big heart hidden under a surface of
affectations. When the film, yet another fussily stylized coming-of-age Sundance
winner, began, I was worried it was primed to get on my nerves. It charges out
of the gate with self-consciously flippant narration wrapped around a teenage
boy’s college application letter. Thomas Mann is the boy, Greg, the “Me” of the
title. He opens the film delivering verbose voice over in a mopey monologue
breaking down the social groups of his quirky high school over a montage of
precisely framed tableaus. This set off all the twee faux-indie navel gazing
alarm bells in my head. But then a funny thing happened. The movie settled into
its rhythms, allowing its characters space to breathe and its style room to
reflect an evocative teenage mood. By the end, it had worn down my defenses and
moved me.
In the opening, Greg explains his plan to stay invisible
during high school, friendly enough to avoid getting picked on, but distant
enough to avoid close associations with any one group. He acts like he’s
uninterested in making meaningful human connections, but really he’s just
scared of getting hurt. Better to have no real friends than risk losing them.
Instead, Greg spends his time enjoying culture, his sociology professor father
(Nick Offerman) and mother (Connie Britton) having encouraged his
serious-minded eclectic exploration of everything from food to literature. But
film is his favorite, marching through the Criterion Collection canon and
making his own little parodies (with titles like My Dinner with Andre the Giant) in his spare time. It’s not long
before this movie’s arch stylization is put to good use reflecting Greg’s
worldview. It knows it’s a movie as much as he wishes his life could be
understood that way.
His closest acquaintance is a fellow cinephile, Earl (RJ
Cyler), who likes the same movies and collaborates on the parodies. They hang
out every day and have fun together, but they’re not friends, exactly. Greg
calls him his co-worker, but we, and Earl, know better. Over the course of the
film, Greg slowly lets down his emotional barriers as he allows himself to step
out of the constricting comfort zone he’s built. The first step is a shove. A
classmate, Rachel (Olivia Cooke), has been diagnosed with leukemia and Greg’s
mother forces him to go over to her house. Despite neither teen feeling
especially thrilled about this diagnosis-inspired play date, an embarrassed
friendship forms, dropping the embarrassment as they begin to feel comfortable
around each other. But Greg remains painfully socially awkward, as the movie
thankfully doesn’t become glossy teen romance. It remains realistic about how
much we could expect a person so stubborn could change in a relatively short
period of time.
Because Rachel’s the “Dying Girl,” we have a good idea about
where this is going. But she’s not completely reduced to her condition or used
exclusively as a prop for other’s emotional growth. Though she is that, too.
Greg and his outlook remains the focus, the characters turning around him vaguely
defined, outside his immediate interest. But as he gets to know them, they come
into focus, relationships developing in a sweetly fumbling way. The supporting ensemble
capably fleshes out what could otherwise be stock eccentric types. Jesse
Andrews’ screenplay, based on his novel of the same name, has familiar teen
comedy elements (wacky mom (Molly Shannon), wise cool teacher (Jon Bernthal), hellish cafeteria, set cliques, accidental drug use). It’s self-aware and loaded with artifice
(split-screens, title cards, winking narration, precisely dropped soundtrack
cues), but also totally sincere in its evocation of a pinched emotional
perspective. Greg feels things so deeply he holds himself back, preferring
movies to the real world because it’s a channeling of emotion. (How many film fans can relate?) Human connection isn’t so easily contained.
Director Alfonso Gomez-Rejon, who has mostly directed TV
episodes for Ryan Murphy’s Glee and American Horror Story, is no stranger to
letting loose with all manner of wild emotions and attention-grabbing style.
Here he deploys an extravagantly directed showiness with long unbroken takes,
tight framing to emphasize strong feeling, dramatic focus pulls, cutaways to
animations and flashbacks, blocking to enhance emotional distance by pushing
characters to the extreme sides of a wide scope frame. But it’s in service of a
delicate tone, matching the wild imagination and moody inner life of its main
character. As he grows closer to the Dying Girl, and realizes how important his
friendship with Earl really is, the film draws them closer in the frame. Soon
he’s no longer sharing the shot, but sharing the space. The dramatic style
settles down, decreasing its posturing as Greg does.
Its climactic moment – you can probably guess the broad
strokes – is its most beautiful, a scene of pure earnest connection mediated,
but not superseded, by cinema. The camera focuses on Cooke’s eyes, wet and
trembling, the light from a projector dancing colors across her face as their
connection reaches its purest expression. But this moment doesn’t solve Greg’s
problems, spiking a potentially sentimental moment with a more realistic
picture of the emotions and situations involved. Greg gains confidence in
risking connection despite possible pain. There’s enough reflection in this end
to prevent the film from becoming only blinkered approval of his initial
attitudes. So even though the other characters only exist here to put the
protagonist on the path out of adolescent selfishness, they remain individuals.
He learns to see other people as continually unfolding surprises, with more to
learn the more you stick around and get to know them. Films can be like that,
too. Sometimes if you take a chance, let your guard down, you can be
rewarded with meaningful, maybe painful, connection.